We’ve all been there, right? Feeling guilty about letting someone down, not doing what you said, upsetting someone you love. It’s heavy.
Why do we feel guilt though?
It can be due to limiting beliefs we have about ourselves; I’m a bad person, I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy.
When we feel emotions, they are typically trying to send us a message. Either we are not living our life according to our values, or we need to release a limiting belief and stop restricting ourselves.
Sit with your guilt, ask why is it here? What comes up for you? And if you keep getting messages about another person (‘they’ll be upset’ or ‘they’ll be lonely’), I suggest you turn that into ‘how do I feel…’, take the other person out of the equation and see what is at the root of your guilt. If your guilt is masking other feelings, like jealousy, resentment, inadequacy… You’re totally normal my friend! But you don’t need to beat yourself up either.
Honour what comes up for you.
Then forgive yourself.
Get some perspective. Look at the situation from afar and think what the other person might be feeling. It might not be as bad as you’ve created in your mind. Get really clear on what self-talk you are using and there you will find your limiting belief.
We create our beliefs, and our beliefs create our lives. Let go of limiting beliefs and start creating the life you want.
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